On the Eroticism of Everyday Life

12 thoughts on “On the Eroticism of Everyday Life”

  1. This puts the right frame around eroticism, I think. It is an animating force. Obvious yet hidden. Unique yet universal. A flame that attracts the moth to destruction, but also a way to light the path and paint it with warm colors.

    I ran across a phrase this morning –“watch the wind”–which meant to watch for the thing that moves, not the things moved. The cause, not the effect. Eroticism is something like that, at least to me.

    Poetry is a hunt for the wind, for causes and not effects. I’m fairly new to the craft, and that part is constantly the hard part. But the connection between creation and the broader idea of eroticism is real. I am getting older, and I’m not always sure I can trust my body as much as I could, but the same feelings still inhabit me, and that’s part of what makes writing still pleasurable and satisfying.

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    1. Beautifully said. Thank you. There is a destructiveness about it, too…kind of like a push-pull, an oscillation between life and death. I like what you say about poetry. I myself and just returning to it after having taken many years away from writing poetry, and there sure is a feeling that accompanies the most poetic of insights–the birth of metaphor–that I think must be intimately tied to eroticism.

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  2. I very much like what you said in this and the previous post. Also, I love the accompanying graphics throughout your posts! Exquisite. The one of the hands with the tiny frilly butterfly on a fingertip wow. When you say “creativity and eroticism are connected”, I think of concepts of libido, life force, and qi. From taoism/daoism, the urge of the 10,000 things –all that is– is to connect and create, looking to the Mysterious Mother, from which all things spring and to which all things return. You may as well say eroticism is a law of nature. When you talk about eroticism being separate from sex, and the way you describe it, could it be that eroticism is being in love with life itself? Thank you for getting my synapses firing.

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    1. Thank you for the compliment on the art work. While I do graphic design/web design, I am afraid I can’t take credit for this work. But, I do agree that the artist has great taste! Now, my knowledge of Taoism/Daoism is limited, but I certainly think both eroticism and creativity stem from a life force, or libido. I also think that eroticism has a big imaginative component. That’s one of the ways in which it goes beyond sex, beyond reproduction, and the desire to connect physically. Eroticism may be natural, but it is also distinctly human. It’s inventive. It’s playful. And yes, I think it’s a manifestation of being in love with life.

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  3. For me, eroticism is far more than sex, as you’ve said. Its about the sensual for me. You can have a breeze brush a strand of your hair against your face and enjoy it…you can feast your eyes upon something beautiful, you can enjoy your own sense of touch…and yes, it can go ‘far beyond the desire to connect physically’ as you’ve said. We need to get away from stereotypes and your posts are doing just that!


    1. Thank you, Lynne! I agree, emphatically, on the sensuality of the experience. It’s funny–it was my attraction to the sensuality of much mid-late 20th century Latin American literature that first drew me to it and led me to discover the writings of intellectuals like Paz on the subject of eroticism. One of his most celebrated poems, “Sunstone,” is so incredibly, magnificently sensual (and erotic) that, to read it, I felt as though he was describing the world I inhabit…and often want to inhabit more! To confuse eroticism with straight lust doesn’t do the experience justice, as you suggest. It’s so much more colorful that that 😊

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