Sex, Conflict, and the Self-Fashioned Woman

A reader recently requested that I write a post on unwanted, or unwelcome, male attention, including sexual advances, and to position that issue in relation to my understanding of femininity. A challenge. I thought about it for a few days. Maybe a little too hard, actually, because I almost scrapped the idea and wrote an [...]


Flaps flare Seated Stowed Ears deaf to the drum Of the skyline Stamping Beneath the jet engines’ roar Swollen feet fidget Clamoring for disembarkation Anxious bodies are restless to depressurize Please have your documents ready Another 767 Lurches to the gate (The baby in 2C is finally asleep.) Seatbelts: Off Landing lips: On Additional translation [...]

The Vixen Diaries: A Project in Self-Fashioning

Among the qualities that commonly draw me to a particular writer, artist, or thinker, there is one that allows me to develop a unique affinity for the individual and a special appreciation for his or her work. It is a dimension of personality (or, perhaps, it is more) that, once I uncover it in another—in [...]

On Feeling Pretty

There are certain states, certain complex, or elaborate, sensual and emotional experiences, that consistently elude description. It is as if these experiences, no matter how significant, are destined from their inception to remain feelings—to stay tucked beneath the veil of consciousness, with certain qualities rising, occasionally, to the surface where they spark a vague sense [...]

Read the Room

Up-sell Cross-sell Engage Connect Assess their needs Sell to their needs You have no needs Your needs are their needs   Smile Role-play Turn on the charm Deep breath Confident face Ready? Am I speaking? I hear myself Am I smiling enough? Be assertive I’m not flirting, am I? Close the deal. Isn’t that why [...]